An Ode to Extended Family & The Family We Choose

In life, we often hear the phrase, "It takes a village." Rarely do we stop to reflect on who makes up that village. For many, the extended family—those bonus parents, friends, and mentors—are the unsung heroes who shape our lives in ways that go beyond blood relations. Today, I want to celebrate those extraordinary individuals who have offered unwavering support, love, and friendship, even without the traditional ties that bind us.

The Unsung Heroes

These remarkable people may not share our last name, but their impact is undeniable. They stepped in when our parents needed a helping hand, offering us weekend getaways and a respite from everyday life. Imagine those refreshing weekends spent in the warmth of their homes, filled with laughter and connection, despite having already raised their children decades prior. Their willingness to share their time and resources was a testament to their generous hearts.

Cheering from the Sidelines

Do you remember those days spent on sports fields, in concert halls, or during school events? Each time we looked up, they were there—cheering us on, encouraging us to give it our all, regardless of how small the achievement seemed. It didn’t matter how far they had to travel or how minor the event appeared; their presence reminded us that we were never alone in our pursuits.

Celebrating Our Journeys

Even as we flew from the nest into the vast unknown, these extended family members never faded from the backdrop of our lives. They continued to check in, ask how we were doing, and celebrate our successes, whether they were significant milestones or tiny victories. Their excitement never waned, even if decades had passed without a face-to-face meeting. Through texts, calls, or social media interactions, they kept our spirits high, reminding us that no distance could sever the bond we shared.

Showing Up, Time and Time Again

This post is an ode to those who consistently chose to show up. Their presence was not a duty or an obligation; it was a heartfelt choice. These individuals rocked us in their arms when we were young, earned our trust, and stood by us when our lives took unexpected turns. Their commitment demonstrates that relationships formed by love and mutual respect can be just as strong as those tied by blood.

The Reminder of Belonging

As we navigate adulthood, it's easy to forget that we still need that sense of community and belonging. Our extended family reminds us that we are part of something bigger, no matter how grown-up we become. They make sure we know that we belong and that there are people rooting for us, no matter where we go.

So, here’s to the aunts and uncles, the cousins turned confidants, the work friends who became our chosen family, the teachers and coaches who never stopped guiding us, and even the strangers who welcomed us into their lives. You are the pillars that support our journeys and the additional arms that hold us up. This is an ode to you—our extended family, our village, our home beyond home. Thank you for everything you've done and continue to do. Your love and support are gifts that we cherish every day.